Baby Schedules?!

Am I the worlds worst mum, or just stupid? I don’t really have Miss Adelayde on any type of schedule, is this wrong of me? All I keep hearing about or reading about lately is sleep schedule this wake schedule that.This is why she doesn’t sleep through the night, you haven’t trained her to do so.

Ummm last time I checked I had a daughter, not a dog.

I mean we do pretty much wake up around the same time every morning. Lately its been about 6:30-7am, I change her and then feed her in bed. Hoping beyond hope that she might fall back asleep for a little bit. That never happens. So we move out into the living room, and I put her on her mat for a bit of play time. I’d say about 9ish she is ready for a bit of a nap. It only ends up being a shorty maybe an hour. And yes I do have to rock her to sleep. If I don’t she would never sleep, so yes I spoil her as most would say. She feeds about every three hours still.

Who the hell am I kidding, she feeds when she wants to. Perhaps I make my boobs to available. Ha I’m sure a few boy friends would have liked me to make them as accessible to them as I do to her. I hear of people who give them a soother, the child not the boy friend. To stave off a feeding, I can’t do that. And why would you do that? Is that normal to do? Once again am I living under a rock and know nothing about these silly tricks if you want to call them that. God forbid she miss out on eating! I say she likes to eat because she was so small at birth, she is just trying to catch up. Or maybe it’s just because I love to feed her too. It’s OUR time, ha all the time is our time. But when you breastfeed its just a special time, and the feel good hormones are a bonus too!

I try with some success to get her to sleep between 8-9pm. Doesn’t always work, it was for a bit. Then everything changed, her sleeping and eating. I say growth spurt. So about 11-12 she has her last feed before real bedtime. That is when she actually gets put into her bassinet or in bed with me. (yes I do co-sleep from time to time… But that’s a whole other post) And then the night-time feeds begin. About every three hours, sometimes I’ll luck out and get four hours. I do the feeds in bed, not lying down. I never could master that. And the fact my mattress is older than me I’m sure, so it sags a bit in the middle so we can’t do the side feed. I’m sure that would save on time and sleep. But we can’t do things the easy way. Most of the time I do the nod. You know, like you do when you are falling asleep somewhere you shouldn’t. And you chin hits your chest, and it jolts you awake.

And then the dance of the two of us starts all over. We don’t go out every day, and I wouldn’t want to make it the same time. Somethings you just can’t plan I say….

But am I really the only one who isn’t rigid with her child? Sorry if you are, I’m not knocking schedules. I know she needs some routine. So then I guess yes I am a terrible mum. Bad mummy bad…

 

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5 thoughts on “Baby Schedules?!

  1. I’ve had similar questions about scheduling my baby; at the end of the day, I found I needed to do what worked for me. My baby will be 6 months in a couple of days and many books say I should be transitioning her to sleep by herself in her own room. Well, I’m not ready for that, so I’m not doing it. I have to parent in the way that works best for me and my baby. I don’t think you should be pressured into everyone else’s idea of how to raise your baby, you know her best.

  2. Well if you’re a bad mum, then I am too…I am completely at the mercy of Alariks’ whims I suppose, but I follow his lead. As you said, they are not dogs. We are doing the best we can with what we know to do, but after all they are just completely and totally reliant on us to simply take care of their basic needs and love them endlessly…what else is there?
    And also, you my dear friend are an amazing Momma! ❤

  3. Schedules? What is that?? A baby needs two things….love & food. If you give them consist love and food when they are hungry that is all that matters, well in my opinion. Call me lazy, but a baby develops their own schedule. I never forced a schedule of either of my kids when they where babies. Well one is still a baby. But my 9 yr old turned out just fine.

  4. For the first four months I let Abi sleep whenever. After two months I would have her nap every two hours. Now At 6 months she naps 3-4 times a day depending on if she needs it. She has a bedtime routine and I put her to bed no later than 7pm so that she understands the different between bedtime and naps. But I think she will also develop her own schedule. Currently Abi lets me know by first yawning and rubbing her eyes. Then she gets fussy and I know for sure it’s time for a nap. She seems to nap at the exact same times of the day.

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